Likeability

Tim Sanders's book, The Likeability Factor, is simple yet complex. The summary is that likable people succeed. This sounds like a simple principle, yet when I look at myself, I see all the good things I can find. Therefore, I must be likable. [Blind Spot]

Sure, I am good at some things that cause me to be likable, but what am I doing that causes me to be unlikable? I play many roles in life. I am good in some of these roles but not in others. It is the 'others' that I need to become aware of because there are blind spots that I can't see or choose not to see. How many times have I heard words that would lead me to become more likable, but because they were non-complementary, I discounted them? Words like angry, loud, know-it-all, Mr. Right and many more. You know, the ones we disregard because they are not complementary.

These are the words people who love and care about us tell us. They say it not to complain but to make us better people, and easier to be around. Wow, that is so hard to hear. Yet, being able to listen effectively can make us more likable. 

Here are several key qualities and behaviors that tend to make a person likable in any setting:

• Empathy and Understanding

• Reliability and Competence

• Positive Attitude

• Good Communication Skills

• Respectfulness

• Collaborative Spirit

• Humor and Light-heartedness

• Adaptability And Integrity

• Humility

• Friendliness and Approachability

• Resolving Conflicts Amicably

I want to nurture a space where everyone feels valued, supported, and connected, making my home, work, and neighborhood a true sanctuary for all.

To be likable, I don't have to give up my beliefs or be too agreeable; it just means having good, respectful, and meaningful interactions with people.

How about you? Where are you on the likeability scale in the many roles you play?

Watch for the blind spots.

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