Growing up, I did not have as much as others, which made it easy for me to fall into the trap of comparing myself. I look around and see people who seem to have it all—better jobs, more talent, bigger homes, or maybe they seem happier or more put-together. But here's the thing for sure: when I compare, I lose.
When I compare, it steals my joy, peace, and sense of self-worth. I look at someone else's success or possessions and feel I need to measure up. I focus on what I don't have instead of appreciating what I do have. I notice what others can do that I can't, whether it's a skill, a lifestyle, or even how they look, and suddenly, my achievements feel insignificant. This mindset of comparison breeds insecurity and dissatisfaction, making me forget my unique qualities and strengths.
The reality is everyone's journey is different. What someone else has, whether a promotion, a fit body, or even personal accomplishments, reflects their path not mine. I don't know their struggles or sacrifices to get there, just as they don't know mine.
When I compare, I lose sight of my progress. I overlook my victories because I'm too busy looking at what others have achieved. But success isn't a one-size-fits-all concept. What's fulfilling and meaningful to me differs from what it is for someone else. The only person I should compare myself to is the person I was yesterday. My goal should be growth, not measuring myself against others.
Hearing a recent sermon, I was reminded that God made me more than enough. He made others differently but not better. By God's design, we all have our unique differences.
So, when I recognize that I am comparing myself, I focus on my journey and keep moving forward. When I compare, I lose, but when I focus on my path, I win.
How about you? Do you compare yourself to others, or do you compare yourself to the you of yesterday?
Watch for the blind spots.
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